PART 2 of 2
She forgave the unforgivable.
And found self-love.
In part 1 of this 2 part article we looked at the myths that block us from forgiveness. Check it out If you haven’t yet read it.
Here I wanted to share Meredith’s story of forgiveness.
Meredith worked with me over several months and after 13 years of therapy, finally found a way to forgive and heal the emotional, mental and physical pain; the legacy of a history of childhood sexual and physical abuse by family members.
These are acts that most people would deem unforgivable, but through her ability to forgive the ‘unforgivable’, Meredith was able to set herself free.
My wish is that her story inspires you, and shows you the possibility and benefit of finally forgiving your ‘unforgivables’
This is the story of her healing journey over those months with me, in her own words…
Part 2: Forgiving The Unforgivable
Meredith’s Story In Her Own Words
And I think itâ€™s gonna be a long, long time
Till touch down brings me â€˜round again to find
Iâ€™m not the man they think I am at home
Elton John and Bernie Taupin
At one point, I knew it would be a long, long time before I could blast off on my way back to myself.
Iâ€™m happy to say Iâ€™ve made it.
Sitting in my current state of being, I can now look back and appreciate the travels Iâ€™ve made, particularly in the last eight months.
I first reached out to Joel Young to stop being hit upside the head with my own trauma stories.
A year prior to meeting him, I had remembered specific trauma that had precipitated much of my life experiences to that point, including sexual abuse by nuclear family members, multiple attempted murders at the hands of those family members, and worse, complete hatred for who I was and a loss of spiritual connection.
Nothing In The External World Could Bring Me Peace
I had been in therapy for over 13 years, had overcome bipolar disorder and being medicated, and made huge life changes including owning my sexuality and moving to an island miles from anyone except my wife.
I had been able to make great needed external changes in my life, but the internal dialogues (or monologues as the case often was) and physical pain continued. Nothing in the external world could bring me peace to any real degree.
I worked with Joel on multiple levels, not just NPA. His story of overcoming the effects of abuse and his ability to be happy inspired me.
In Journey sessions, we revisited the past through portals in my body that were new to me. I learned how to hear what my body remembered as well as how to hold the memories for more information and release of pain. These sessions also allowed me to build a trusting relationship with Joel.
I moved on to six sessions of NPA and while we both thought I might go through them in fewer than six months, it ended up taking eight. It was a clear indication of my slowing down and my deeper work.
Through NPA with Joel, I learned how much I took everything personally and how much that was my greatest problem. I was identifying with everything from my trauma story to my own disinclinations.
If I had never liked this or that before, it will always be true.
The Biggest Gift
The biggest gift NPA offered me was to open myself to any possibility, including experiencing change just for the experience.
With endless possibilities at my fingertips, I could hone in on the one thing Iâ€™d searched for the last 50 years, to know myself.
The most important aspect of working with Joel was the fluidity and inherent wisdom with which he approached each session.
He never seemed to come with an agenda and though the first sessions were slotted for Journey work and the last six for NPA, he always allowed us to move however the energy guided us; there were times we used no specific tool.
His complete acceptance of my process, whatever it was, was so empowering, offering me the amazing opportunity to free myself of the â€œhow,â€ focus on the â€œwhat,â€ and accept myself on ever deeper levels.
Joelâ€™s language in matters of the soul, analogies, and humour added to our connection and my ultimate ability to construct more appropriate stories of myself and my life. I can now celebrate my journey by being; it is exactly what I wanted when I first talked to Joel.
When Joel recently mentioned the mountain he watched me climb, I had the inclination to say, â€œwhat mountain?â€ From where I am, it no longer FEELS like it was a mountain. There is a lightness and fluidity to me and to my life now.
I worked through what I needed to work through but the most important take-aways are self-love, a desire to continue to unearth my spirit and purpose, a deep spiritual connection all my own, and an inherent ability to be present in any given moment and move from a place of listening deeply to life.
If Meredith’s story has affected you, raised questions or moved you, please do get in touch via the comments or through social media.
Your shares are also welcomed, as this article may well help someone else end a lifetime of suffering.