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Suppression comes in many forms: activity, outburst, numbing, anger and more… but in a willingness to truly experience the pure energy of the grief that comes with change, an incredibly swift purge of pain is possible.
The irony is that those who don’t understand may think you cold and unfeeling if you achieve this, for the cultural dogma says that grief must last for so much longer (“If you cared” they say).
I encourage you to do your work anyway and stand as an example of whatâ€™s possible.
The reality is though, that even those who have the tools may not have the resources to use them in times of the greatest grief and pain. Forgive yourself, or others if that is the case… we all have our own rocky paths in this adventure called life.
Get 1:1 support with Joel…
Kazy-Vincent Janes, a client from the UK said:
“A brilliant session and just perfect – thank you for amazing ability to hone and tune and hold and guide so superbly and uniquely for me”
I feel incredibly blessed to have at my disposal (and to have practiced for many years) incredible tools that make this possible, including NPA.
The practice is important as preparation for the more difficult times. It allows the ‘channels of active use’ to be more available to you when the chips are down and the urge to avoid and suppress is at its strongest.
Last monthÂ brought a hugely significant ending for me and has been a great teacher on this. It has shown me both where I have needed to step up my practice, and also where my practice has stepped up for me.
In the coming year I renew my commitment to deepening my practice and to helping others step up and deepen in theirs, whichever tools, rituals or techniques they use but especially NPA.
Grief and ALL those crazy, weird, wonderful emotions can bring the deepest gifts into your life.
Practicing the tools will prepare you to make the most of it when life presents those ‘opportunities’
Namaste my Lovely friends
If youâ€™d like to find out more about NPA, you can visit www.JoelYoungNPA.com and start practicing now.
In this short audio with Joel Young, The Creator of The NPA Process, you will discover how the requirement for personal involvement in your healing journey has dramatically changed since the background shift in consciousness has matured over the past few years…
The historic culture of personal involvement
How things are different since the recent shift
Why purpose is context specific on the healing path
Discernment betweenÂ option and need
How one lady went from flustered stuttering to clear expression in 30 seconds
How shifting consciousness automatically shifts emotional states, limiting beliefs and unhealthy behaviours
When conscious participation IS necessary
What love’s got to do with it
Time investment: 6.5 minutes
Why Conscious Participation Is Not Always Necessary For Healing
The air is alive with World Cup fever this month. It’s something that comes around like clockwork, fills the participant nations with high emotion and has the potential to deliver the highest of highs and the lowest of lows.
How, thought I, could I possibly relate this footie-phenomena to the joys of a non-personal perspective in a personal world?
Well, if you’ll pardon the pun, it turns out that it offers us a golden opportunity for self reflection and a shot at deeper freedom…
The other day I caught one of those ‘count down’ TV programmes, the World Cup Top 100 something-or-others, and what I noticed is that we hold distinct national ‘identities’, which directly relate to ‘what we are like’ in the World Cup.
For example – England are rubbish at penalties, Irish fans expect nothing but have the best time, Cameroon are likeable rogues, Germany are efficient and effective; always in contention etc etc.
It’sÂ intriguing that the identification each nation has taken on in relation to their World Cup experience, seems to play itself out again and again. The thing is, the same mechanism is operating in our individual lives; we each have our own ‘World Cup’ event, we have assumed an identity in relation to it, and we play out this identification as our habituated track through the event. With a sigh we are left wondering why it happened pretty much the way it always does.
Of course, if you’re a Brazil, an Argentina or a Germany in relation to your personal World Cup, then chances are you feel pretty happy with how things pan out.
However if you’re an England and find yourself constantly disappointed and longing for the glory days; or if you’re a USA who’s only really interested when you’re winning and dismissive of the whole thing when you’re not; or if you’re a Scotland thatÂ ends up with the opportunity to play much less than you feel you deserve and often end up on the sidelines gaining hollow satisfaction from seeing your ‘only slightly more talented’ sibling country falling flat on their faces again… well then, perhaps, it’s time to break the pattern and have a different experience..?
The Road To Your World Cup Heaven
So, here’s your chance for some self-inquiry. I could call it steps 1-4, but it’s oh-so-much more fun to continue the metaphor:
You’ve gotta be in it to win it, so firstly you’ll haveÂ to get through the qualifying stages. For that you’re going to need to ask yourself what your ‘World Cup’ situation is? Then to survive the group stages you’ll need to knowÂ who you are being in relation to that situation?
Next it’s knock-out time and it’ll take some fancy footwork toÂ uncover which key aspects you’ll need to leverage, to bring more freedom and ease to the situation. Pull all of this off, and you’ll make The Final, where you can use a little NPA (the ‘Pele’ of tools for this kind of thing) and score the winning goal that canÂ reset who you know yourself to be!
Defining Your â€˜World Cupâ€™ Situation
To help get you qualified for the main event, here’s some qualities that define the World Cup and which you can use metaphorically to look at the defining your personal World Cup event:
World Cup Aspects Defined:
Itâ€™s a sport, so there are winners and losers, with a series of events and a distinct outcome that defines that (add drama to taste)!
It is noteworthy on the â€˜sportingâ€™ calendar!
It happens regularly and repeatedly
Thereâ€™s a heavy investment of National identity in it. Lots of fire, passion and potential misery! (even though itâ€™s â€˜onlyâ€™ a sport)
So, to find the World Cup in your life, contemplate those aspects and ponder where this kind of pattern plays out in your life. If you want to sit back and be lead by the hand on this, skip to the bonus resources section and share the blog – then you’ll have access to a handy bendy audio that will help find your personal World Cup.
Who Are You In Relation To That Situation?
Once you’ve got a specific situation in mind it’s time to take an objective look at how it plays out. Imagine that it’s not you, not your family, not your life – just a TV drama. Ask yourself:
How does it usually play out?
What role does my character play throughout? (Think in terms of archetype, stereotypes or symbolically)
What role does my character end up in?
What judgements are my character making?
Is there a clear emotional pathway and/or a switch point? (eg. a give up point, an explosion point, an impatience-leads-to-carelessness point)
Just watch the movie and contemplate these questions, getting a general sense of the role you play and how that pattern shows up.
A Couple Of Examples
Here’s a couple of examples to give you the idea…
The Children’s Clear Up Challenge
Your ‘World Cup’ event might be asking your kids to tidy their rooms? You notice you leave the asking for as long as possible – perhaps its a 4 week cycle. You seem uncharacteristically het up about it and the kids throw all kind of strops. You want to be ‘strong Mum/Dad’ but the tears and tantrums always seem to take the juice from the legs. You hit the crossbar, miss the goal – it never quite seems to go the way you want it. When it comes to this – you just seem to play out the role of the ‘ineffective parent’, and you feel disproportionately crushed.
The Financial Ex-Factor
It’s that time again when you need to ask your ex-husband for more money for the kids. It’s always more of a drama than other conversations you have with him. You find yourself getting nervous before you call him, distrustful thoughts enter your mind, then angry thoughts – you know you play your best game when you’re centred, but you can’t help feeling meek. You fight the feeling and get angry with yourself – you know you’ve a perfect right to ask. Then you call. Sometimes he’s just fine and agrees and what a huge relief. But sometimes there’s a slight hesitation from him, a hint of resistance and you explode – you accuse him of sleight of hand with the finances, you’ve slipped into the role of ‘hysterical ex-wife’, a ‘victim’ – Â it’s an own goal – you’re devastated and bewildered… you don’t even think that stuff… ouch.
And fella’s on the other side of this one – you know there’s equally complex emotions and identities at play here for you too! â™¥
Shifting Identities with NPA
NPA is awesome for shifting identities. The NPA vernacular for them is ‘cookie cutters’ and they come in all shapes and sizes. Simply having an awareness of what you’re up to and the roles you fall into in your personal World Cup is an empowering thing and awareness alone for sure can get things moving. However, super charging with non-personal awareness has a way of releasing these traditionally sticky identities at the speed of light!
So now you’ve got the situation nicely defined, you can apply some NPA, and here’s some simple ways to do that:
4 Steps For Experienced NPA-ers:
1) Use a spew from the set up questions and contemplations in section 1 (the qualifying stage) to get a situational cookie cutter. Self elicit in your preferred way and chooseÂ the most animated cookie cutter. 2) Ask yourself: In relation to [Situational CC], who or what are you being? 3) Spew and elicit the most animated cookie cutter(s) 4) Run those cookie cutters through the NPA Process.
Simple Instructions For Newbies & Beginner NPA-ers:
Simply share this article via the bonus box and you will get access to a 6 min video that will take you through how to do the process. There will also be an outline of the NPA Process words themselves. There’s a ‘gap’ in the process where you insert the cookie cutter you are using.
If you’re a newbie simply use whatever role or roles you came up with that you play as your ‘cookie cutter’.
So in the examples I gave above, the cookie cutter to use for The Children’s Clear Up Challenge would be [ineffective parent]. And for The Financial Ex-Factor, there are two: [hysterical ex-wife] & [victim], requiring two processes. Obviously, it’s going to be whatever role you are seeing yourself in, not the examples. Just put that in the process, say the 6 lines, including those words out loud and see what happens.
If you want to understand all those ‘Experienced NPA-ers’ terms and do really graceful NPA, you’ll need to get some training via our comprehensive audio programmeNPA: The Bridgeor by attending anEvent. You can also get direct assistance from me, and make a huge difference in your lifeHERE.
Bonus Resources For Sharing
I’d love you to share this article on your social networks, and doing so will give you instant access to the NPA Basic Training video, The NPA Process words AND a guided elicitation to help you through steps 1 & 2 described above.
NPA Basic Training
Words For The NPA Process
The NPA Process (c) Joel Young 2007 onwards
Your Guided Elicitation
Hit play and enjoy!
Hi, this is Joel Young, the creator & custodian of NPA. Thanks for sharing the blog. This audio will give you a helping hand to define aÂ situation in life which is your personal world cup. Make sure you’re in a safe place to do this – neither driving nor using heavy machinery. So let’s begin.
Get yourself comfortable and take a deep breath, sigh it out… and as you relax, and allow yourself to contemplate the movie of your day to day life, knowing that the answer will find you, you might wonder what situation, or set of events seems to happen over and over in the same way?
The situation that pops effortlessly into your conscious awareness now, will be one that stands out as somehow important to you. Even though it might seem trivial in the scheme of things, the outcome in this situation inspires a lot of passion â€“ it matters somehow â€“ even if you donâ€™t know why? And it might be something you get very heated about?
Perhaps you notice, that if or when the outcome goes your way â€“ you feel elated. However – if or when the outcome doesn’t go your way â€“ you feel incredibly deflated, or perhaps even furious! You may have noticed that each time this situation occurs, it plays out in much the same way, with perhaps a few minor deviations from the norm?
So, as you relax and allow yourself to contemplate the movie of your day to day life â€“ what situation is coming into your awareness? Be light and open – it’s not an exact science, and doesn’t have to tick every box – just trust that you can work with whatever situation is showing up, or the one you simply decide to pick… When you’re ready, make a note of the situation, a simple reference.
OK, so let’s take it to the next step…
With that specific situation in mind you can now take an objective look at how it plays out. Watch it play out on a screen. Imagine that it’s not you, not your family, not your life – just a TV drama and as it plays out, contemplate what role your character plays throughout. Let the label for the role find you – it can just pop into your mind. It might come as anÂ archetype, like victim, martyr or rebel. It might come as a stereotype like geek, bread winner, drama queen, bully or perhaps as a judgement like dork, big kid, idiot, pathetic person… just be open and trust whatever pops in. Write it down – for newbies – that’s your cookie cutter!
Once you’ve run it through the process, let me know what you experience in the comments and be sure to visit our main site at NonPersonalAwareness.com
Artist credit: World Cup Selfie by Emma Allen – http://www.emmaallen.org/gallery/
We hold distinct national ‘identities’, which directly relate to ‘what we are like’ in the World Cup. via @JoelYoungNPA
It’s intriguing that the identification that nations take on in relation to the World Cup, play themselves out repeatedly. via @JoelYoungNPA
In our individual lives; we each have our own ‘World Cup’ event.Â via @JoelYoungNPA
NPA is The ‘Pele’ of transformational tools :0) Â via @JoelYoungNPA
Score the winning goal that can reset who you know yourself to be! via @JoelYoungNPA
NPA is awesome for shifting identities. via @JoelYoungNPA
Having an awareness of what you’re up to and the roles you fall into is an empowering thing. via @JoelYoungNPA
Non-personal awareness has a way of releasing these traditionally sticky identities at the speed of light! via @JoelYoungNPA
Trust that you can work with whatever situation is showing up. via @JoelYoungNPA
I wanted to give you access to this really heartening and connected call on death and life that was one of our regular ‘General’ NPA Community calls.
As you may or may not know, members of The NPA Community have access to two free calls a month – a general call for questions and connection, and a themed call where folks pair up and share NPA Processes on a theme. It all happens on our teleseminar system which makes it possible to do the pair work privately and still be part of the group.
It’s pretty obvious what happens on the Themed Call, but people often wonder what happens on the General Call..? I always say it’s an open invitation to connect, ask questions and just see what happens in the energy.
So I thought I would share one with you and this one is a great example of how the group can flow and serve each other on our General calls. I always start with welcomes and introductions and get a sense of where everyone is at, then the energy takes the lead and we follow…
This call took place on 11/11/2013 and on it, regular attendee, Bernadette Reed shares how her mother had recently passed. This lead on to a surprising group NPA process which begins a string of connections, shares and more group NPA.
The call takes you on a journey from the experience of death at a close personal level, to the mass death experienced through the Philippines Typhoon. There are opportunities for you to join in the processes, hear some non-personal perspectives from me and join the moment where we all feel that the ultimate secret to life gets revealed 🙂
Whether you have experienced the passing of a loved one, or just curious about what happens on our calls, I’m sure this heart warming call will bring something of value into your life.
If you’re interested in finding out how you can become an NPA Community Member, you can check out our qualifying products HERE
I recommend giving yourself the time to sink into the recording and ‘join the energy’. However if you’re willing to share this post then you’ll unlock a contents time map that will allow you to navigate accurately to the sections that interest you most or you’d like to review. It will also reveal a second player that will give you the option to download the file and listen at your leisure :0)
Thanks so much for sharing the post! Here’s the contents map:
StartÂ Â > Welcome, Intro’s & requests (Freya has a question, Linda has a family issue, Bernadette’s mother has passed)11:30 > Question about The Integration Frame answered (includes a reminder of what cookie cutters really are) 15:30 > Bernadette talks about her mothers passing 20:10 > Joel responds 22:10 > Shares from group 25:40 > Set up for group NPA 26:20 > Bernadette invited to lead group NPA (you can join in with this the process itself starts at 27:20) 31:00 > Shares from Bernadette and the group 34:20 > Addressing Linda’s issue (includes the ultimate secret to life) 37:40 > Nila makes a request (we move to the Philippines issue, Joel finds where the animation is in the request) 41:50 > Second group NPA, based on the animation from Nila’s request (you can join in with this process) 45:40 > Shares from the group 47:40 > Everyone shares what they are taking away from the call… during which Joel highlights the ‘next natural step’ phenomenon with NPA (at 56:20) and shares his ‘need to know’ philosophy in relation to not watching the news (at 59:00) 1:04:00 > Ends