How To Parent Yourself & Get Liberation From Your Personal History

Parent YourselfIn my many years of self-healing and working with countless clients, I noticed that most painful behaviours were born from ‘child consciousness’ or young identities within us that are looking for something… Love, protection, acknowledgement, understanding etc etc…

The child energy seeks parental energy… And yet we tend to “personalise” parental energy, and therefore limit it’s origin to our parents and carers.

An Unmet Need

So if the flow of parental energy through these fine people is shaped in a way that didn’t connect with our various child energies, an unmet need is generated which becomes a deep and unfulfilled longing.

Our proclivity to personalise the source of our fulfillment generally puts us on a path that seeks for it directly from them. Or, as we move through life, from surrogates like spouses or even our own children. Sometimes there’s a blessing, and through another the need is met, is able to be fully received and the spirit moves forward.

But for the most part the seeking patterns we adopt, the unresourcefulness of those we beseech or the sadly inadequate communication skills of either party leaves the longing unmet. Our frustration and sense of failure adds insult to injury. Confused and with no alternative we soldier on, deeper into unfulfilling territory.

The Good News

The good news is: If you parent yourself in all the ways you wish you had been parented, then Love will run amok in your heart, where need once did.

Through the notion of self-parenting I was liberated from my personal history and then discovered some GREAT news! Parental energy is non-personal and can joyfully flow through you to your child energies in exquisitely precise ways.

One way is with an NPA tool that is taught at The NPA Expansive Weekend and I use a lot in my sessions called the ‘Parental Integration Frame’. In an elegant and easy way it allows me to elicit your hidden perspective on what needs to happen (in the parental energies) in order to create the ideal parental conditions. Then you can discover and access what’s been truly longed for but never fulfilled. Using NPA we then work to balance and shift the parental energies to meet those conditions, allowing the longing to be experienced and fully received.

Although this process is simple and quick (It takes less than half an hour) it can be highly emotional and has a huge impact on people’s lives. The process doesn’t ask you to get into the historical story of what should or shouldn’t have happened, it cuts straight to core of what truly matters to you, as the child of somebody; then, now and always.

The Foundation Of Our Wellbeing

Our parental energies, in many ways, are the foundation of our wellbeing. It took me a lot of journaling, crying, story telling, blaming, journey processing and relationship breaking before it dawned on me that I could parent myself. Coming up with a simple way to share that has just been the icing on the cake.

The Parental Integration Frame doesn’t require you to figure out what conditions are required to allow your longing to land in you. It uses a simple technique to bypass the analytical mind which, I have found, makes for a vastly accelerated healing.

Nonetheless I began self-parenting even before I created the Integration Frame and so I want to leave you with an inquiry – something to sit with and help you down the road of self-parenting.

Contemplate this inquiry…

“What is the essence of what my inner child longs for?”

Then you might like to ask yourself:

“How might I give that to myself?” and
“When would be a good time?”

I’d love to hear your answers in the comments below and, of course, any questions.

I also invite you to share (see the special bonus for that below) x

Joel Young, Father & Mother of Himself and Originator of NPA.
http://www.NonPersonalAwareness.com/

 


Joel YoungJoel Young
Joel is a well renowned international speaker and teacher in the field of Human Consciousness. With nearly 20 years experience in private practice and working with groups, Joel’s vast experience makes him a master of facilitating release, freedom, healing & awakening.

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5 Comments

  1. I love this Joel! Interestingly I’ve been examining this exact topic lately. The child seeking parental energy, coming up short and then searching and seeking from then on for its essence. I’m finding that it sits at the core of so much of people’s busyness and inability to be still. Love the synchronicity! Sam x

  2. Yesterday at an acupuncture and massage session with my chinese doctor I noticed feelings of being very scared in my body. So my answer to your question today is My inner child needs safety. Which surprises me. I have been working as a crisis psychologist going into very bad situations like car accidents, school shootings and helping survivores to cope and live on. Aiming to bring safety into chaotic situations.
    And now I notice my inner child needs safety very physically in my body (shaky inside when I write this)
    How might I give that to myself and not only to others?
    * This chinese massage is good – the doctor´s verbal communication is very scarce as she knows very little Finnish and English. She talks with me through her hands.
    * Just notice the signs of scaredness in my body
    * give my inner child a hug in my fantasy,
    *build trust not in outer circumstances but in my inner world: Yoga, meditation, NPA, Journey work
    * Be with my inner child when it is scared, accept it, listen to it

    When? Now. Ongoing process.

    Love
    Anna

  3. my passion has been continuum movement by Emilie Conrad, there we are interested of a fluid movement in our bodies .Now I ve come to know some of npa that is to me the fluendity of thoughts and feelings.
    Yes, this inner child . I saw myself as little girl in a green forest ,alone and fully and unconditionally loved . So to be really loved however I am and no matter wheather I choose to be alone or with other people, there is always a connection, a field a field that is vety safe and loving kind. Parenting my self is a very good way to see it.
    Many blessing Kaarina

  4. Thanks for your comment Kaarina and for sharing your experience of the exercise. Truly allowing the perspective ‘I’m unconditionally loved’ is a deeply freeing place to be :0)
    I also love your take on NPA and fluid movement, tho I know nothing about that… I’m a big fan of moving the body and often see the body responding to NPA with natural movement. Also, when NPA first arrived I was inspired to take up 5 rhythms dance… naturally 😉

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