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For a while there I was putting the cart before the horse.
The cart being money.
The horse being my natural connection to abundance.
I see so many people doing this, and in my experience it’s a real abundance killer.
I want to tell you about how that has really shifted for me this year and offer you some ways you can apply it to you, but first let me give you a little background…
I’m an experiential learner. Always have been.
Sometimes being an experiential learner means you need to walk into a few walls before you find the door…
Experiential Learning
NPA Popped out of me on Feb 5th 2007. I started teaching it to groups in 2009.
It took off like a rocket.
For two years it grew and grew.
By the end of 2010, I was more abundant than I had ever been on every level, including money.
Money, of course, was in the equation for consideration, but it certainly wasn’t front of mind.
I was having a blast and NPA and I were thriving.
Inevitably, when you grow, you hit an edge.
The Edge
Technically, I’d been self employed for many years. But as a 1:1 practitioner the mechanics of a business had been relatively simple, especially as I was, for the most part, under the wings of an international seminar company. I taught their work all over the world, to rooms filled with 100’s of people. My practice filled effortlessly.
The events marketing was handled for me. The business visioning, staff issues, infrastructure, systems, on-site logistics… all taken care of by the company.
Running my own seminar company, was new territory.
And as it grew, I hit challenges I had no idea what to do with. I’d grown enormously in the areas of emotional fluency, spirituality, facilitation skills, human understanding etc. But the skill of running a business was an unexplored area of myself.
I was very much at that beginner stage. I was a newbie, a stumbler, a mistake maker, a rabbit in the headlights at times.
The folk around me were selling the prescribed business mindset hard; the idea that “You need to focus on the bottom line… That’s if you want to have a ‘proper’ business and ‘take it seriously’. You need to grow, and plan and forecast.”
Spreadsheets, balance sheets, profit margins and pension provisioning, apparently were the order of the day…
Karmic Time in the Cycle of Frustration
Something in me, the unknowing self, saw the juicy wiggly worm and not the hook… I bit…
Things plateaued in 2011, and in 2012 took a dive.
My response?
Work harder.
Check the numbers.
Watch the balance sheet.
Mitigate the risks.
I did karmic time in the cycle of frustration…
I was frustrated because over the years I’d done a shit load of work on abundance issues – digging up the emotional dirt and getting to the root of it all – yada yada…
And of course, I was doing NPA on this and that when it was animated to do so. NPA had caused miracles in so many areas of my life, so c’mon – wtf?
Well I often teach that one way NPA works is to show you the next step… after all the Soul sometimes has an agreement that you’ll go slow and squeeze every evolutionary drop out of the experience.
One of the core philosophical principals of Non-Personal Awareness is that all experience is relational.
What’s more, our current relating models suck.
NPA provides powerful new perspectives and ways to approach relationships which can radically shift your personal experience of them. Even as relationships change – be that a growing together or moving apart – you are empowered to experience your wholeness.
My epiphany hit me on a rainy June afternoon in 2014, on the towpath of the Grand Union canal, right behind Tescos in Leighton Buzzard. Proving that God does’t just show up in glamorous locations 😉
This is what hit me:
I was in a relationship with money.
And a shitty one at that.
I’d been looking entirely at myself… but what needed work was the relationship.
Then it came to me:
In NPA I had created amazing ways to work with relational energy.
What if I applied them to my relationship with money?
So that’s what I did, and I invited a small group of people to join me on a course that I called The August Abundance Assembly.
On the course we discovered our natural abundance, cleared our yucky projections around money, addressed the issues in our money marriage and re-kindled the spark we’d lost.
We each came away with 4 unique foundational keys to a stable and productive money marriage, and a clear connection to the essential purpose of our relationship with money this life time.
It was like a divining rod, a compass, a guiding light that could keep us connected to our natural abundance and help our money marriage stay healthy going forward.
Pleasure
Undergoing the course work myself, I discovered that the foundational key to my natural abundance was pleasure.
But I had grown up associating money with a LOT of pain.
Just to clarify something – what pleasure means to me, may be different to what it means to you. People on the course each went through a detailed process to find a ‘cookie cutter’ for their Natural Abundance. Like all cookie cutters, it’s a personal label which points to an energy, and it’s the energy that does the magic.
Once I put pleasure (my horse) in front of my cart (money) some foundational shifts began to occur.
• My relationship with money softened, I got clearer about what mattered to me.. what was MY natural way.
• It re-affirmed that I had what it took if I trusted my natural abundance.
• It sparked off that urge to grow and acknowledge how pleasure wanted to express itself.
• I discovered that my values in this matter were very different to my girlfriend and I realise now that this was a fundamental aspect of our parting.
Once she and I went our separate ways and I was out of the energy of that dynamic, I felt liberated to explore.
A Conscious Shift of Attention
This year I have very consciously put pleasure at the forefront of my decision making. Especially around my work.
As I pointed out in my blog on the 6 stages of the dark night of the soul, as you come out of it, there is a discovery stage. A stage where the best thing is to give yourself permission to run with the new and see what happens.
This process requires you to roll with the changes, and continually let go of the forms, structures and habits that were part of the old self. And over time, things clarify and solidify.
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Basically, I got off the work hard, money focus hamster wheel and just did what felt good.
Of course I made plans, but noticed that pleasure’s plan didn’t really pay much heed to them. The balance sheet that needed attention was the balance sheet of pleasure… and it needed some major income!
So I’ve given myself a LOT of pleasure this year.
And, you’ll likely not be surprised to hear, that money, clients and opportunities started coming out of nowhere. In fact this year I have been more financially abundant than I had been in any of the last five years.
Part of my ‘cacooning’, in a sense has been me taking ‘time off’ to do things that bring me pleasure. Letting myself off the hook of have-to’s that were fuelled by the mis-aligned money-focus lack.
But my decision to truly put pleasure, my natural abundance, at the forefront has been a liberation, a revelation and a real confirmation of the power of that course.
Powerful Contemplations For You
I hope that by you hearing about my experience, you’ve already had some insights.
And I thought I’d lay out some contemplations that will help you bring it back to your situation and begin the process of shifting you to a more wholesome state of abundance.
The act of contemplating the notion that you are in a relationship with money is a powerful thing, so I invite you to start there.
It’s also worth taking time to consider the ‘state’ of that relationship, and if it’s not fabulous, what is the impact of that on your life?
Ponder what a wholesome relationship with money might be like? And imagine if you had that wholesome relationship, what it might bring to your life? What it might bring to your experience of money and abundance?
Take a little while for these contemplations.  You’ll likely find, it’s a great investment of your time.
Some Specific Questions & A Request
I’ve laid out some specific questions that you can answer in the form of a survey.
To be completely transparent with you, after my experience of the power of the course this year, I’ve been thinking about running it again, with a few updates.
I created the survey because I want to get a sense of where you are and where you want to be in relation to money. And, if there’s a demand, I can create a course that delivers what really matters to you.
That being said, I wanted to do it in a way that gives you a real space for some self-inquiry on the topic. So by filling out the survey you will get some direct insight on YOUR relationship with money.
So, if you’re potentially interested in a course that gets you in touch with your natural abundance, dramatically improves your relationship with money, and gives you a powerful foundation for abundance going forward… or if you’d simply like to undergo the simple inquiry questions, you can click the link below and take the survey.
You’d also be doing me a favour – Just click the big blue button below 🙂
One Final Thing
If you’re having a major aha like I did, and are looking back at what you’ve been doing in your money relationship with darkened eyes… please make some space for self forgiveness right now.
For me, in the time that the cart was before the horse, I actually did learn a lot. And not just in terms of spirituality or life lessons. I learned a huge amount on a practical business level – about marketing, online courses, Facebook advertising, project management, hiring people, firing people etc etc…
So give yourself a break and know that there will have been gains from what has been… and simply start from here…
And you can always do the survey: Just click here.
Have you ever been in a situation where the people around you are in an absolute stink? A prolonged state of ‘negativity’ where it seems like nothing you say or do, no matter how well intentioned, can encouraged them to come back into their heart?
My name is Joel Young and I’m the creator
of The NPA Process, a beautifully simple way to stop taking things personally.
This video addresses the issue of dealing with intense negativity in terms of basic human interaction. It comes in the understanding that human relations are often where our deepest crap hits the proverbial fan, rarely stopping to consider the sanitised suggestions proffered by our more enlightened aspects.
I’ve experienced this many many times in my life and I’ve learned some valuable lessons along the way.
I’m not generally big on formulas, but it IS nice to have some options.
So here’s a list of 10 things I’d like to share with you, that I’ve found helpful when I’m dealing with intense negativity. If you can assimilate even one of them in the heat of the moment, you’ll be doing yourself (and the other person) a big favour.
So let’s get started…
1. Re-Think The Label ‘Negativity’
When you label someones expressions as ‘negative’ you enter dangerous territory.
Now, It’s not that I’m saying there’s anything intrinsically bad or wrong with the term negativity, I’m simply suggesting you examine what you are really saying when you use it, and how that impacts your experience: your thoughts, feelings and behaviours.
I could say a LOT about this, but the main point I want to highlight is that in the context of heated interactions: Watch out for the tendency to fall into the trap of using the term ‘negativity’ as one of the following: a judgement, a defence, an attack from a position of superior enlightenment, to assert yourself as a victim, to negate their perspective or deny their experience.
All of those will cause YOU pain and I’m encouraging you to be as aware as possible about how YOUR label for THEIR experience impacts YOUR experience.
When we’re uncomfortable with someone else’s expression, it’s very easy to believe the notion that they ought to be different than they are – after all, YOU can see that they would be much happier if they only followed your helpful advice and, of course, it would certainly be easier for you!
Again, I’m not saying that your helpful insights aren’t awesome, and if they did do what’s bleedin’ obvious to you, perhaps they would feel a whole lot better!
The slippery slope here is when you become attached to your way and then suddenly you have an agenda.
Agenda’s limit possibilities. They can make you go deaf & blind to the other person, to yourself and tend to create strong undercurrents of pressure to have themselves fulfilled.
Pressure and heat is exactly what you need for an explosion – just sayin’
The truth is that they need to be where they are right now – at least for now. And as humans we tend to resist when our natural pace is forced.
There’ll be time for suggestions or for offering a perspective or for finding a way through that works for them (whether you agree with it or not) – and that time might not be now.
When you drop your agenda, you’ll be more available to notice that moment when it arises.
3. Don’t Take It Personally
Well, of course, this list would not be complete without a reference to NPA would it?
So… Lots of wise sages have advised people not to take these things personally – and trust me it’s good advice!
I have dedicated nearly a decade of my life to sharing the multifaceted and fundamentally non-personal nature of reality… And sometimes, especially in these situations, it comes down to this: It’s just not about you!
Of course, when someone’s deepest doo doo is being flung in your face, it can be easier said than done to not take it personally, but fortunately the human race now has The NPA Process which gives us a simple and effective way to cut through the sh*t (pun intended) and come up smelling of roses (I may have overdone and/or mixed my metaphors – but you get the point!).
I’ve experienced it myself AND had amazing feedback from so many other people who have stepped out of a heated situation, taken themselves through an NPA Process and found they really CAN stop taking it personally and become freer to act from a wholesome place.
On my website (see below) you’ll find a free and simple exercise called ‘Don’t Take Them Personally’. It will show you exactly how to use The NPA Process in these situations and I highly recommend you get it.
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This suggestion may seem hard to swallow, and it often requires us to be able to genuinely get the hang of suggestions 1, 2 & 3 – so: drop the label of negativity, drop the agenda and not take it personally – before we’re able to really listen. But when you DO really listen, magic can happen.
There can be lots of ‘faux’ listening going on, especially where an agenda is running in the background – and in fact, that is not listening.
Truly listening can be miraculous, but listening in order to get a miracle – well, we’re back to agenda again :p
Listening without an agenda is just that. Listening. Nothing added. You might be amazed what gets said when they realise you’re really listening.
5. Listen To You
There’s a saying that ‘misery loves company’ which points to our very natural human longing for agreement. In the heat of their deepest pain people often seek agreement from those around them.
And when I say seek, as you know, it often comes out as demand right?
Now, Our culture is full of mixed messages in this arena.
We’re taught, for example: “It is kind and loving to sympathise and support someone in their painful storiesâ€
This is something many would agree with, and it’s my opinion that there IS a place for this in the bish bosh of day to day human bonding. Validation can be an important part of dialogue.
Conversely we are told “where attention goes energy flowsâ€, which in this context is kind of a rebranding of “don’t throw fuel on the fireâ€. In other words, if you give their negativity attention it will just get worse.
Then there’s the old chestnut: “If I don’t put ’em straight they’ll never learn  And sometimes a strong alternative perspective is exactly what’s needed…
The reality is, there’s no ONE approach that will be right for all situations, and you can’t truly know how the other person will respond whichever path you choose. To sympathise, to challenge, to ignore, to confront…? What to do? What to do?
All you can do is listen to you as best you can, and follow those inner prompts, knowing that they, ultimately, come from a wider awareness. Plus, this way, at least you stay with yourself.
6. Ask Yourself: Is It Kind To Me?
This inner inquiry came to me in the middle of a drawn out domestic some years ago.
Kindness has always been important to me and the question I used to ask was focused very much in the outward direction. “What’s the kind thing for me to do†would be translated as “how can I express kindness towards them“.
What I realised though is that sometimes, my attempts at kindness would be very painful for me, and would often backfire and cause greater stress in my beloved at the time.
The thing is, I was excluding myself completely from the kindness equation.
So, on this occasion I was laying next to my wife at the time, both of us worn out from the long fight. I knew she was still mad at me and very much unresolved… and the truth is, so was I.
Then arose my usual urge to make peace… To open my heart and reconnect and I began to reach out my hand to touch her softly and comfort her… Suddenly the words rang loudly in my head: “Is it kind to YOU Joel?â€
My hand stopped in it’s tracks as the realisation dawned. “No, it bloody well isn’t kind to me†and then, I realised, it wouldn’t really have been kind to her either.
It would have been a false move, borne from my agenda to stop the discomfort I felt with the conflict! It would have been a lie to her and a lie to myself.
My hand withdrew and I lay in the truth, and let her be – free to lay in hers. Something in me softened.
So my suggestion is: before you act to appease, to agree, to shout, to run – whatever – ask yourself “Is it kind to me?â€. If it is? Chances are it’s the kindest thing you can do all round.
OK, this one is real simple. You’re gonna cock it up on numbers 1-6 at some point (and numbers 8-10 for that matter!). You just are – that’s your humanity.
So give yourself a break.
Sometimes, what is, is just gonna be: “I’m fed up with the unconscious negativity of the miserable bugger. Why won’t they just think differently like I tell ’em AND I’ve been as kind to them as I can possibly be in spite of their mood! What about me!!!!???†lol
Give yourself a break. There’s another breath coming.
8. Remove Yourself From The Situation
Sometimes you’ve just gotta get out. Get away from it. This links right back to listening to and being kind to you. There are times when it’s time to stay and work it through, and times when something inside says it’s time to go.
This is true in a small temporary way – where you just need to take yourself off for a walk, a bike ride, for a coffee or whatever… AND it can also be true in a bigger way, where it’s time to leave the relationship altogether.
When you listen in and pay close attention, and are willing to be kind to you, the thousand-and-one rational thoughts that would keep you in the painful crap longer than is ‘true’ won’t get a look in.
9. Affirm Your Willingness To Be There When They’re Ready
In relational dynamics, especially if it’s that time to go take a breather (and it’s not the grand finale), I’ve found that it’s kinder all round if you can offer some sense of reassurance as you step away.
It may seem that the other person can neither hear you nor cares, but something inside them is listening.
So saying things like “I’m here when you’re ready, I know we can work this out, and I need to go right now†tend to tear less at the bonds between you.
This isn’t only a sound approach at the times when you need to walk away for a bit, but all throughout communications at these heated times.
The more you can offer statements of intent to work it out together, to hear them, to be there: it’s all good (as long as it’s kind to you).
But really – don’t under estimate the value of another perspective in these kind of situations. We all need a helping hand sometimes <3
One More thing…
What if YOU are the source of ‘intense negativity’?
In that case, watch this video again and see if you can recognise how there’s a part of you that needs to ‘re-think the label’, ‘drop the agenda’ etc etc – give yourself a break and Do some NPA!!
Give It Some Love
So… Perhaps you have ideas I’ve never even thought of? Maybe one of these 10 suggestions has given you an aha moment or helped you in some specific way? Maybe you have a strong opinion about one or all of these?
Please let me and others know in the comments and why not share this if you’ve found it helpful
Also go visit my website: NonPersonalAwareness.com where you’ll find the free and simple exercise called ‘Don’t Take Them Personally’. Remember, it will show you exactly how to use The NPA Process in these situations and I highly recommend you get it.
[or use the link in the box below]
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If you want to be and feel wealthy, start getting really honest with yourself about what truly matters.
Matter
Matter. It’s a word that speaks to the formation of the Universe. Quantum forces pulling energy waves into states of tension that give rise to apparent solidity. Energy in tension. I’m sure the phonic simile isn’t lost on you…
This is how your personal reality comes into being and what truly matters becomes more apparent in your field of experience. If you want to know what truly matters, look around your life and notice what there’s already an abundance of…
This is not about positive and negative – discovering what truly matters requires a neutrality of mind, an ability to simply notice.
This sober inquiry will help you land where you are and clear the hallucinogenic fog of positive or negative biased thinking. It has the potential to drop you into truly aligned clarity with an awareness of the intrinsic abundance of your existence.
Connected
The point of this sober alignment, is it gets you CONNECTED to what MATTERS – positive or negative as it may seem right now. It’s the difference between having your fingers on the stuff of life and the ability to move it, as distinct from just running your fingers through empty space. Basically, when you’re connected to what matters, you begin to have a much greater impact when intentions arise.
So, does your story of wealth match the reality of your wealth?
If your story of wealth is that it’s all about large amounts of money, and you have very little, then the fact is that money doesn’t truly matter to you. Once you notice what there IS a wealth of, and therefore what matters to you, you’ll automatically begin to feel the power and flow of your innately creative and abundant self – even if it’s subtle, and even if what matters seems a bit rubbish at first.
Materialise
NPA offers a very simple way to notice those points of connection and in NPA we call them ‘Cookie Cutters’. I often say that I have developed highly sensitive Cookie Cutter ears. In other words I’ve got extremely good at noticing where people are connected to what matters to them. So each process begins with being connected to what truly matters. It’s one of the reasons an NPA session with me and The NPA Process can be so impactful, even if there’s just a few processes in the time we have together.
If you want to manifest the stuff you say you want – if you want to ‘materialise‘ it – then at some point you’ll need to connect to (and start moving in) the stream of matter as it relates to you now.
Let me know your thoughts in the comments below, and please like & share with your friends ♥
As this post get’s published it’s NPA’s 7th birthday!
It seems like ages ago that it popped out of me in Costa’s in Abingdon. It tickles me that Divine births can happen in the most ordinary places.
There I was in my own little vortex of guided communication while around me; kids were squashing the remains of muffins into hot chocolate soaked saucers; an amazing carer calmed the colourful tourette’s syndrome shouts of her ward; a suited salesman wheeled and dealed on his phone and mid-life girl friends supported each others judgements about the this and the that of their lives…
And in amongst all that, six little lines that would rock my world (and countless others) just popped out. Lot’s of people have told me they were inspired by the story of ‘how NPA was born’ so I thought I would share it here amongst the Musings of NPA & Life. If you share this post you can watch a video of me sharing the story, and help spread the word about NPA… otherwise – simply enjoy the read:
The Birth Of NPA
“I’ve been working in the field of human consciousness and personal growth for approaching 20 years. Back in 2007 I’d had the privilege of working with many amazing people and yet…
On 29th January 2007, I was sat in a Costa coffee shop in Abingdon, Oxfordshire where I lived and quite literally a prayer was ‘born’ through me and it went like this:
“OK God,” Grace, whatever you want to call that, “Is there something specifically that wants to come through me, in service to the world… and if there is, please let me know?â€
I’m very clear about this. If the answer was no, then that would have been really fine. I’d have happily just carried on teaching what I was teaching.
However, literally a week later (on February 5th) I was in the same coffee shop, journaling on my computer when the six simple lines that I now call the NPA Process literally popped out of me! They came with that tingley-wingley sensation – which is sort of a signal to me. It was like, “This is the answer to your prayer. There will be seminars and books.â€
You Have To Be Kidding Me
My response was, “You have to be kidding me. That’s just too simple, too easy!†But I’ve discovered that the simplicity of NPA is its genius in as much as it means it can be used in so many different ways and yet it’s really, really powerful.
For quite a long time I kept it very, very close to myself. I wanted to discover for myself, through direct experience, what this ‘Non-Persoanl Awareness’ was? And it quickly busted many of my illusions – the things that I’d learned and taught for all those years were really challenged by this little NPA thing.
It wasn’t until 2008, in November, that I first taught it publicly and not until 2009 February when I first taught it in an official way and since then it’s just exploded. It’s in countries all over the world and that’s down to the fact that it’s so simple and it just works.”
Thank You For Sharing!!
Thanks so much for sharing. Here’s the video – enjoy!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=szUjQro5IHI
If you want to go in-depth with the power of NPA, remember to check out our comprehensive audio programme “NPA: The Bridge” :0)
Of course, as a positive thinker, I’m aware that you’re going to be cosmically ordering the perfect Christmas – more than likely online.
You know the perfect Christmas I’m talking about right..? The one that goes according to your plans…?
Well, just in case the cosmos has an ‘Amazon on a bad day’ moment; the stuffing hits the proverbial fan and – in spite of your many years of meditation -Â you slip out of ‘enlightened mode’ for a split second…
I thought I’d offer you some questions you can ask yourself to help you set the baubles straight on your aura… 😉
TOP TIP: While these questions are focused on resolving potential Turkey drama, they can also be powerful allies in all manor of Christmas Crises…
Question 1: What would Jesus do?
This would be my first response – it is Christmas after all! I actually don’t think there’s ever a time where channelling a bit of The Divine Christ Consciousness won’t perk you up.
Of course if you’ve “so done the Judeo Christian thing” then feel free to channel your latest fave Divine Being – I’m sure they’ll have a wise word or two on your blackened fowl.
Question 2: What was the intended consequence of serving perfect turkey and how else might I still experience that?
If you’re the practical or creative sort, this is the question for you!
I’m a great believer in the adage that an intention doesn’t put all it’s eggs in one basket. There’s going to be another way to make ’em smile with merry cheer – if that was your intention.
Like an eager understudy the alternative means to your end is right there in the wings; waiting for the signal that it’s going to have it’s moment. It’s as keen to be seen as you are to see it and when you completely let go of your idea of how it should be, the understudy will make it’s entrance on the fleet foot of inspiration.
Question 3: What if this is what perfection looks like?
For all you hard core awakened Souls: sometimes you just gotta go Eckhart Tolle, on it’s ass!
The eternal bliss of embracing ‘The Power of Now’ will surely help you see the innate perfection of the moment…
Here’s your quick guide:
Don your best tank top, take a few minutes in silence, empty your mind and breeeaaathe… Look your ‘Pain Body’ in the eye and give it your best Beavis & Butthead chuckle. Let that joker know that you see through the its game and that IT is the only thing that won’t end up being fed this Christmas.
Bliss, peace and enlightenment is assured… namaste
Question 4: How would Billy Connolly tell this story?
OK, so let’s not get too fixated on Billy. If you haven’t heard of him, google him (he’s a British comedian) and consider it a pre-emptive self-preservation manoeuvre. And, if Billy’s not your scene…? C’mon, really? Well you can use your favourite comedian…
As Al Murray, The Pub Landlord (another Brit comedian) says, “The point is this…” – Looking at the funny side can be the best balm when you’ve burnt your bird.
Get Set For A Christmas without Taking Things Personally…
“This video programme gives you the core training for The NPA Process so you can start taking yourself from triggered states and stress to centred-ness and peace in as little as 45 seconds…”
OK, so it might not be the veggie thing, but whatever’s come unplanned may be giving you a signal? Perhaps there’s something better than what you expected on it’s way right now? You just have to have the eyes to see it, and an open heart to let it in (everybody say ‘Awww’)
Not the quickest of fixes this one, but good for the Soul.
Question 6: What am I experiencing that I would like to allow to pass?
Did you see what I did there?
Yes, that’s Q1 from The NPA Process – and if you’ve done any NPA then this question will put you into unfettered express mode – or as I like to call it – a spew.
A spew without judgement or holding back, by itself, can be a great relief and instantly avoid PTPS (positive thinking pressure syndrome)! PLUS you get to find a cookie cutter, NPA it, stop taking it personally and (with a smile) stumble forward gracefully in whatever wholesome way works best for you!
Now, if you don’t know your spew from your cookie cutter or what the NPA I’m talking about…
a) You lucky thing, you – you’ve just happened across the simplest way I know to stop taking things personally! The NPA Process has been described as a ’45 Second Miracle’ which can help you let go of the ‘yucky stuff’ and let in the ‘yummy stuff’ of life. It’s transforming lives in over 18 countries as people realise that using this practice sets them free from the fear and effect of other peoples opinions, negative criticism and projections. It’s helping people totally shift their sense of self at the highest level and in the everyday world of 21st century human experience – bringing lightness, laughter and ease to both the mundane and major challenges of life.
b) With a little basic training you can get up and running with the practice fast, and start feeling the release and peace around your burning issues (that so many people report) in short order. There’s definitely an ‘art’ to getting the most from it and accessing the deepest transformations it brings over time… so…
c) You better buy yourself THIS for Christmas… And remember: NPA (and what it gives you) is for life, not just for Christmas! 😉
In any case, DO have a lovely Christmas – whatever happens!
Striving, trying hard, struggling… these are the misplaced modern virtues that keep us on the Ferris Wheel of exhaustion. They are hailed within our culture as noble and praise worthy. The mythology goes: ‘It ain’t worth a damn if you don’t bust your gut gettin’ it”
The thing is, we’re in one of those weird phases where we are culturally clinging to our mythology and simultaneously sick and tired of it. Or, to keep it mythological; the spell is wearing off but we’re still under.
You see, the spell rests on a simple mechanism. The spell dresses it seductively, oozes sincere promises and, when challenged, spouts spurious logic with convincing charm. “It is no mere mechanism,” it will tell you, “it is the way to get what you want!” The mechanism itself is neutral, available and happy for your ‘wants’ to come as they may…
So, what is the mechanism and what is the dressing?
Intention & Agenda
The mechanism is intention. The spell-binding dressing is agenda.
An agenda, in the way it’s meant here, is a fixed plan or idea of how things should be; how what you want should show up and perhaps the path that should lead to it’s arrival.Â
An agenda about life tends to skew your perspective and rarely puts you in the discovery mode that facilitates an alive and energetically free state of being. Rather it has you trying to fix or control life, your experience and the experience of those around you.
Life has energy resources beyond anything you can imagine, let alone access personally. It is constantly offering you energetically pre-paid pathways of manifestation, which may or may not match your agenda. Your agenda makes you personally responsible for ‘making it happen that way’. It closes you off from Life’s creative chaos and puts the energy liability firmly in your court.
Drop The Agenda
When you drop the agenda about what life SHOULD be or look like, you are open to the the flow that is coming through you anyway.
Yes you read that right – ‘coming through you anyway’. You see, we’ve had the story of intention all rather back to front. We’ve been sold the idea that our agenda sets the intention, whereas a little self inquiry will reveal that that is not the case.
Actually, intention comes in service to a deep impulse, which originates prior to the experience of ‘self’. The impulse arises from the non-personal space and meets (or connects with) the personal experience. At that moment, the mechanism of intention is activated.
The impulse is the herald, announcing that the ESSENCE of what is wanted has arrived and is willing to express itself through you. Intention connects it to your personal experience and is very neutral about how that manifests.
When you drop the agenda, the impulse for the experience you ultimately want has space to emerge in ways that perhaps you hadn’t considered, or even in the form you expected it!
Dropping the agenda allows you to break the cultural spell and ride on the coat tails of the Universes infinite power. There’s less striving and more efficiency - you simply get what you want without trying.
Joel Young
NonPersonalAwareness.com
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Several years ago my Dad was doing some investment consulting. He was looking with one eye at the cutting edge innovation bourne from universities and their research. And with the other eye he was looking from an investment viability stand point.
At one stage he had dealings with a guy who was responsible for the investment portfolio of a massive, and very famous, retail outlet.
This guys remit was to invest £1million a day. Yes, one million pounds every day!
People Ask For Too Little
So here’s the thing. In order to invest even a few thousand pounds there are checks, and due diligence and all sorts of things that need to take place. All this takes time! And all these checks are so an investor can be as sure as possible that they can reap the rewards that matter to them at a later time.
When your job is to invest £1million a day, that’s a lot of due diligence and a lot of time. So he wasn’t the slightest bit interested in considering any investment of less than 50-100 million.
“The problem” he explained to my Dad “is that people think too small and ask for too little”
Whet God’s Appetite For A Big Juicy Stake
Let’s not get too literal here, but what if you approach God like an investor? And this investor has a LOT to invest every day.Â
If you’re up for playing along, you can ask yourself what matters to this investor (according to you) in terms of what the investment will grow to become? Investors like to know there’s a clear vision and a commitment to seeing it through.
Get clear and ask BIG. Make it worth God’s while to have a big juicy stake in the vision you see and give you the means to make it a possibility.
Feel free to put your big ask in the comments and share this with your friends 🙂
It is not the nature of the Universe to deny what has been asked for. Sometimes what has been asked for (whether it is realised or not) is pain, confusion, separation from power source and lack of clarity…
Sometimes, as you travel through the landscape of life, you pass through challenging terrain, stinky streets or perhaps harsh deserts. It’s easy to look skyward and ask “Why this? Have I not beseeched thee for all things lovely?” But you have been inspired to travel BY those very prayers and to get to the land of your dreams, requires that the journey takes you through THESE lands, if come they do.
Now, this is very different from saying “you have held the wrong vibration, or not entertained right-thinking thoughts”… Those thoughts, (if they have arisen) are simply more of the landscape, and maybe at times the fuel for your feet, that gave you the drive to carry on through…
Prior to ‘You’
The source of these thoughts, and even the prayer, is priorto ‘you’ and non-personal…
One of the things I have found to be a great relief in the energy of non-personal awareness is the clarifications around certain modern ‘spiritual’ ideas, which have come to be the cause of the very suffering and judgement they claim to heal…
When I posted this quote on my Facebook page it promoted some questions via private message, which gives me an opportunity to offer further clarification here…
Q1: “Are you meaning that when we have painful times in our lives we have asked for them?”
The main perspective I wanted to offer by posting this particular quote AND the message that came with it, is that those ‘painful’ experiences may be ‘on route’ to the bigger vision that has been asked for.
Some modern ‘spiritual’ ideas can imply that it is ‘wrong thinking’ that ‘created’ it, which has the tendency to promote self-blame, judgement and an interruption of the flow.
It is also true that at some level those experiences ARE asked for directly… in the same way that on a road trip, each turn of the steering wheel is an ‘ask’.
If the route requires we drive through dodgy territory, then the turn of the wheel that put you on that part of the journey could be said to be responsible for ‘creating’ the experience :0)
Q2: “And we can throw away the spiritual adage that our thoughts create our reality?â€
Absolutely!
“Your thoughts create your reality” is a largely uninvestigated and cab be a misleading statement. Thoughts are an EXPRESSION of the creative impulse, and are a ‘potential’, or you could say ‘optional’, mechanism within the matrix of experience.
It’s like saying hammers create houses. Which negates the architect, the blue prints, the thousands of other tools that are used AND the option of using a nail gun ;0)
Hammers are very likely to be used in the creation of a house, but their use is at consequence to the inspiration to build a house. In the same way, distinct thoughts are very likely to be in the chain of creating your experience, but they are not the ultimate source.
Inquiry Invitation
As always, I am simply offering my perspective fully here, and I invite you to investigate this for yourself. Here’s an exercise you could try…
Find a quiet place where you wont be interrupted, close your eyes and take a deep breath.
Now take a thought – any thought (you probably have a few hanging around) and ask yourself the question “What is the source of this?“
Wait for an answer to arise. NB. Inquiry is not about seeking an answer, it’s about asking the questions, being still and letting an answer or a response find you! In this exercise it may be another thought, a feeling, a picture or some kind of direct experience – just let it be what it is. You may even lose ‘words’ pretty quickly.
Whatever arises, just notice it and ask yourself the questions again: “What is the source of this”
Repeat this question and discovery sequence over and over several times – as many as feels right to you.
I’d love to hear what you experienced and what you discovered in the comments below :0)
Please share, if you feel this perspective could enrich your friends lives :0)
Thanks for sharing – I really appreciate it!
As a thank you, press play and let me lead you through the inquiry process:
Something in me, the unknowing self, saw the juicy wiggly worm and not the hook… I bit…
Have you ever been in a situation where the people around you are in an absolute stink? A prolonged state of ‘negativity’ where it seems like nothing you say or do, no matter how well intentioned, can encouraged them to come back into their heart?
