OK, so the UK voted to leave the EUâ€¦ what now my awakened friend?
I see a lot of anger, sadness, outrage and, frankly, pain and suffering on social media todayâ€¦ based on what?
Well, itâ€™s obvious isnâ€™t it? Everything’s going to sh%t!
Well, itâ€™s obvious isnâ€™t it? We should hang our heads in shame!
Well, itâ€™s obvious isnâ€™t it? We should attack those that voted to leave!
The reality is, we just donâ€™t know ‘what now’ in practical, legal and economic terms. Thereâ€™s good evidence for various scenarios, but even the genuine â€˜expertsâ€™ (you know, the people that actually know what theyâ€™re talking about) state very clearly that the only thing we know for sure is that we donâ€™t know how a decision to leave the EU will play outâ€¦
Projections and assumptions is all we have to go onâ€¦
So I wanted to invite you to look a little deeperâ€¦
Let me ask you this:
Have you ever been surprised by your own decisions? Done something you thought youâ€™d never do? Something that, at the time, you thought was bad?
I know I have, and on each occasion, though it may have precipitated surprise, change, massive disruption and often painâ€¦ at some level there was healing and growth underneath it.
My Soul, as I see it, had decided it was time to bring light to some aspect of my shadowâ€¦ to set it freeâ€¦ enlighten itâ€¦ In accordance with my prayers and intentions…
What you may not have thought about, or realised is:
The UK has a Soul.
All countries do, as part of their collective consciousness and identity. Nations (and anything with a defined boundary) are Beings in their own right. And if you are a UK citizen, then you are part of it. Like organs and cells are individually themselves, but also part of you.
So let me speak to something bigger than your personal, localised selfâ€¦ your personalised local Soul evenâ€¦
And let me ask you this:
Are you willing to stay with your â€˜selfâ€™ in the face of the healing thatâ€™s being asked for from your Soul? Or will you shy away, splinter off in anger and self recrimination? For as you rage and persecute those that voted to leave for â€˜their ignoranceâ€™ you split the very thing you say you love, and prolong the pain.
The personal responses to the national decision very much reflect our responses to ourselves when we believe we have f*%ked things up.
I believe you are interested in a conscious, healing response to the reality of the situation…
So, letâ€™s break it down:
Iâ€™ve stated these reactions in a pretty bold way, and you might say â€œI donâ€™t think thatâ€â€¦ just be aware that Iâ€™ve used these terms to highlight the essence of the reaction in a very obvious way, however they can show up in more subtle and â€˜civilised/rationalâ€™ ways. And in anywise, itâ€™s an invitation to ask yourself if these are happening within you…
Our minds are natural â€œDisaster Movie Making Machinesâ€. You know this! So I invite you to examine your assumptions with some genuine self inquiry if youâ€™re generating suffering in yourself by believing your minds scary story.
You can ask Byron Katieâ€™s amazing questions, starting with â€œIs it true?”
REACTION 2: We should hang our heads in shame!
At the heart of this is an identity issue. Youâ€™ve taken the decision personally and attached a meaning to our national identity (including you) based on the decision weâ€™ve made that is causing you pain. Shame and self condemnation my friend is pain.
Freeing up painful attachment to your sense of identity isnâ€™t about denying your actions or their consequences. Itâ€™s about dropping the paralysing, disabling disempowerment, bringing clarity and freedom of movement to respond wholesomely in presence.
The NPA Process works directly with identity issues and is great for helping you step out of blocks which come from identity shifts. It empowers you to stop beating yourself up and start taking clear positive action at times like these. It also frees you up to allow IN the new sense of self that your Soul is calling for.
REACTION 3: We should attack those that voted to leave!
So you feel angry. I get it.
Things didnâ€™t go as you wanted or expectedâ€¦ An idea about the future has been shattered. And youâ€™re scared.
Anger can be a tough emotion to sit with. I get that too.
Thatâ€™s why we tend to avoid it.
Thatâ€™s why we project it out. Look for someone to blame.
â€œThose ignorant idiots! How could they do it?â€
This doesnâ€™t address the emotion directly. It doesnâ€™t take the healing opportunity thatâ€™s being offered and it puts YOU firmly in the victim rollâ€¦ which. Iâ€™m guessing, ISNâ€™T where your heart laysâ€¦
You might expect me to say â€œDonâ€™t be angry, itâ€™s all as itâ€™s meant to beâ€ yada yadaâ€¦
But that isnâ€™t real is it? If youâ€™re feeling angerâ€¦ FEEL it. And I mean really feel it. Sit your ass down and let the pure anger come. Itâ€™s a wave, and like all emotions it comes to pass. The avenue of passage is direct and full experienceâ€¦ projecting it out is just playing tennis with it.
Letting it truly come to pass, again, will free you from unconscious pain inducing responses AND most likely bring you the gift of awareness about where this national decision hooks you at a personal level. All good!
You can certainly use NPA to help you fully experience this, and there are lots of modalities which encourage you to do this, including Transformational Breathing, Vipassana style meditation and more.
A great method for directly sitting in emotions, which I have practiced and taught all over the world, is The Journeyâ€¦ So I have included a link to that in a list of resources below.
Iâ€™ve called this tough love, because I believe weâ€™re in a time where we are being called to USE the knowledge we have as awakened, conscious folk. Iâ€™ve seen a lot of these reactions from a lot of conscious people this morningâ€¦ Including myself!
I felt, literally, moved to write this and I hope it serves you to bring greater peace, grounded-ness, consciousness and freedom when the energy in the air is a little bit crazy.
In this short audio with Joel Young, The Creator of The NPA Process, you will discover how the requirement for personal involvement in your healing journey has dramatically changed since the background shift in consciousness has matured over the past few years…
The historic culture of personal involvement
How things are different since the recent shift
Why purpose is context specific on the healing path
Discernment betweenÂ option and need
How one lady went from flustered stuttering to clear expression in 30 seconds
How shifting consciousness automatically shifts emotional states, limiting beliefs and unhealthy behaviours
When conscious participation IS necessary
What love’s got to do with it
Time investment: 6.5 minutes
Why Conscious Participation Is Not Always Necessary For Healing
Have you ever been in a situation where the people around you are in an absolute stink? A prolonged state of â€˜negativityâ€™ where it seems like nothing you say or do, no matter how well intentioned, can encouraged them to come back into their heart?
My name is Joel Young and I’m the creator
of The NPA Process, a beautifully simple way to stop taking things personally.
This video addresses the issue of dealing with intense negativity in terms of basic human interaction. It comes in the understanding that human relations are often where our deepest crap hits the proverbial fan, rarely stopping to consider the sanitised suggestions proffered by our more enlightened aspects.
Iâ€™ve experienced this many many times in my life and Iâ€™ve learned some valuable lessons along the way.
Iâ€™m not generally big on formulas, but it IS nice to have some options.
So hereâ€™s a list of 10 things Iâ€™d like to share with you, that Iâ€™ve found helpful when Iâ€™m dealing with intense negativity. If you can assimilate even one of them in the heat of the moment, youâ€™ll be doing yourself (and the other person) a big favour.
So let’s get started…
1. Re-Think The Label ‘Negativity’
When you label someones expressions as â€˜negativeâ€™ you enter dangerous territory.
Now, Itâ€™s not that Iâ€™m saying thereâ€™s anything intrinsically bad or wrong with the term negativity, Iâ€™m simply suggesting you examine what you are really saying when you use it, and how that impacts your experience: your thoughts, feelings and behaviours.
I could say a LOT about this, but the main point I want to highlight is that in the context of heated interactions: Watch out for the tendency to fall into the trap of using the term ‘negativity’ as one of the following: a judgement, a defence, an attack from a position of superior enlightenment, to assert yourself as a victim, to negate their perspective or deny their experience.
All of those will cause YOU pain and Iâ€™m encouraging you to be as aware as possible about how YOUR label for THEIR experience impacts YOUR experience.
When we’re uncomfortable with someone elseâ€™s expression, itâ€™s very easy to believe the notion that they ought to be different than they are â€“ after all, YOU can see that they would be much happier if they only followed your helpful advice and, of course, it would certainly be easier for you!
Again, Iâ€™m not saying that your helpful insights arenâ€™t awesome, and if they did do whatâ€™s bleedinâ€™ obvious to you, perhaps they would feel a whole lot better!
The slippery slope here is when you become attached to your way and then suddenly you have an agenda.
Agendaâ€™s limit possibilities. They can make you go deaf & blind to the other person, to yourself and tend to create strong undercurrents of pressure to have themselves fulfilled.
Pressure and heat is exactly what you need for an explosion â€“ just sayinâ€™
The truth is that they need to be where they are right now â€“ at least for now. And as humans we tend to resist when our natural pace is forced.
There’ll be time for suggestions or for offering a perspective or for finding a way through that works for them (whether you agree with it or not) â€“ and that time might not be now.
When you drop your agenda, youâ€™ll be more available to notice that moment when it arises.
3. Don’t Take It Personally
Well, of course, this list would not be complete without a reference to NPA would it?
So… Lots of wise sages have advised people not to take these things personally â€“ and trust me itâ€™s good advice!
I have dedicated nearly a decade of my life to sharing the multifaceted and fundamentally non-personal nature of reality… And sometimes, especially in these situations, it comes down to this: Itâ€™s just not about you!
Of course, when someoneâ€™s deepest doo doo is being flung in your face, it can be easier said than done to not take it personally, but fortunately the human race now has The NPA Process which gives us a simple and effective way to cut through the sh*t (pun intended) and come up smelling of roses (I may have overdone and/or mixed my metaphors â€“ but you get the point!).
Iâ€™ve experienced it myself AND had amazing feedback from so many other people who have stepped out of a heated situation, taken themselves through an NPA Process and found they really CAN stop taking it personally and become freer to act from a wholesome place.
On my website (see below) you’ll find a free and simple exercise called ‘Don’t Take Them Personally’. It will show you exactly how to use The NPA Process in these situations and I highly recommend you get it.
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This suggestion may seem hard to swallow, and it often requires us to be able to genuinely get the hang of suggestions 1, 2 & 3 – so: drop the label of negativity, drop the agenda and not take it personally – before weâ€™re able to really listen. But when you DO really listen, magic can happen.
There can be lots of â€˜fauxâ€™ listening going on, especially where an agenda is running in the background â€“ and in fact, that is not listening.
Truly listening can be miraculous, but listening in order to get a miracle â€“ well, weâ€™re back to agenda again :p
Listening without an agenda is just that. Listening. Nothing added. You might be amazed what gets said when they realise you’re really listening.
5. Listen To You
Thereâ€™s a saying that â€˜misery loves companyâ€™ which points to our very natural human longing for agreement. In the heat of their deepest pain people often seek agreement from those around them.
And when I say seek, as you know, it often comes out as demand right?
Now, Our culture is full of mixed messages in this arena.
We’re taught, for example: â€œIt is kind and loving to sympathise and support someone in their painful storiesâ€
This is something many would agree with, and itâ€™s my opinion that there IS a place for this in the bish bosh of day to day human bonding. Validation can be an important part of dialogue.
Conversely we are told â€œwhere attention goes energy flowsâ€, which in this context is kind of a rebranding of â€œdonâ€™t throw fuel on the fireâ€. In other words, if you give their negativity attention it will just get worse.
Then thereâ€™s the old chestnut: â€œIf I donâ€™t put â€™em straight theyâ€™ll never learnâ€… And sometimes a strong alternative perspective is exactly what’s needed…
The reality is, thereâ€™s no ONE approach that will be right for all situations, and you canâ€™t truly know how the other person will respond whichever path you choose. To sympathise, to challenge, to ignore, to confrontâ€¦? What to do? What to do?
All you can do is listen to you as best you can, and follow those inner prompts, knowing that they, ultimately, come from a wider awareness. Plus, this way, at least you stay with yourself.
6. Ask Yourself: Is It Kind To Me?
This inner inquiry came to me in the middle of a drawn out domestic some years ago.
Kindness has always been important to me and the question I used to ask was focused very much in the outward direction. â€œWhatâ€™s the kind thing for me to doâ€ would be translated as â€œhow can I express kindness towards themâ€œ.
What I realised though is that sometimes, my attempts at kindness would be very painful for me, and would often backfire and cause greater stress in my beloved at the time.
The thing is, I was excluding myself completely from the kindness equation.
So, on this occasion I was laying next to my wife at the time, both of us worn out from the long fight. I knew she was still mad at me and very much unresolved… and the truth is, so was I.
Then arose my usual urge to make peace… To open my heart and reconnect and I began to reach out my hand to touch her softly and comfort herâ€¦ Suddenly the words rang loudly in my head: â€œIs it kind to YOU Joel?â€
My hand stopped in itâ€™s tracks as the realisation dawned. â€œNo, it bloody well isnâ€™t kind to meâ€ and then, I realised, it wouldnâ€™t really have been kind to her either.
It would have been a false move, borne from my agenda to stop the discomfort I felt with the conflict! It would have been a lie to her and a lie to myself.
My hand withdrew and I lay in the truth, and let her be â€“ free to lay in hers. Something in me softened.
So my suggestion is: before you act to appease, to agree, to shout, to run â€“ whatever â€“ ask yourself â€œIs it kind to me?â€. If it is? Chances are itâ€™s the kindest thing you can do all round.
OK, this one is real simple. Youâ€™re gonna cock it up on numbers 1-6 at some point (and numbers 8-10 for that matter!). You just are â€“ thatâ€™s your humanity.
So give yourself a break.
Sometimes, what is, is just gonna be: â€œIâ€™m fed up with the unconscious negativity of the miserable bugger. Why wonâ€™t they just think differently like I tell â€™em AND Iâ€™ve been as kind to them as I can possibly be in spite of their mood! What about me!!!!???â€ lol
Give yourself a break. Thereâ€™s another breath coming.
8. Remove Yourself From The Situation
Sometimes youâ€™ve just gotta get out. Get away from it. This links right back to listening to and being kind to you. There are times when itâ€™s time to stay and work it through, and times when something inside says itâ€™s time to go.
This is true in a small temporary way â€“ where you just need to take yourself off for a walk, a bike ride, for a coffee or whatever… AND it can also be true in a bigger way, where itâ€™s time to leave the relationship altogether.
When you listen in and pay close attention, and are willing to be kind to you, the thousand-and-one rational thoughts that would keep you in the painful crap longer than is â€˜trueâ€™ wonâ€™t get a look in.
9. Affirm Your Willingness To Be There When They’re Ready
In relational dynamics, especially if itâ€™s that time to go take a breather (and itâ€™s not the grand finale), Iâ€™ve found that itâ€™s kinder all round if you can offer some sense of reassurance as you step away.
It may seem that the other person can neither hear you nor cares, but something inside them is listening.
So saying things like â€œIâ€™m here when youâ€™re ready, I know we can work this out, and I need to go right nowâ€ tend to tear less at the bonds between you.
This isnâ€™t only a sound approach at the times when you need to walk away for a bit, but all throughout communications at these heated times.
The more you can offer statements of intent to work it out together, to hear them, to be there: itâ€™s all good (as long as itâ€™s kind to you).
But really – donâ€™t under estimate the value of another perspective in these kind of situations. We all need a helping hand sometimes <3
One More thing…
What if YOU are the source of â€˜intense negativityâ€™?
In that case, watch this video again and see if you can recognise how thereâ€™s a part of you that needs to â€˜re-think the labelâ€™, â€˜drop the agendaâ€™ etc etc â€“ give yourself a break and Do some NPA!!
Give It Some Love
So… Perhaps you have ideas Iâ€™ve never even thought of? Maybe one of these 10 suggestions has given you an aha moment or helped you in some specific way? Maybe you have a strong opinion about one or all of these?
Please let me and others know in the comments and why not share this if youâ€™ve found it helpful
Also go visit my website: NonPersonalAwareness.com where you’ll find the free and simple exercise called ‘Don’t Take Them Personally’. Remember, it will show you exactly how to use The NPA Process in these situations and I highly recommend you get it.
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CONTEMPLATION 1: THIS IS WHAT PERFECTION LOOKS LIKE
Perfection is not about Happy Clappy LaLa land in permanent stasis, it’s about Divine Order – everything in the Universe exactly where it’s meant to be, which is where it is, in each moment – “Reality”, as Byron Katie puts it.
For you and your experience, that may be up, it may be down; a co-ordinate within the constant motion of Life.
In any case, I invite you to contemplate the notion that this (whatever you are experiencing right now) is what perfection looks like.
CONTEMPLATION 2: STUCKNESS IS IMPOSSIBLE
Everything is Energy. Energy exists in waves. Waves are in constant motion… constant motion is not stuck-ness, even though it can appear to be so…
So contemplate the notion that: “At a quantum level, everything is in constant motion. Stuckness, fundamentally, is impossible”
CONTEMPLATION 3: YOU ARE NOT THE ACTIVE FORCE
If you follow any thought, impulse or inspiration back to itâ€™s source you will very quickly get beyond the self. In may ways that Del Amitri song â€˜Always The Last To Knowâ€™ speaks a profound truth of our personal experience.
We like to think we are in charge, in control, the decider, but there are stupendous, enormous beyond comprehension, out of this world crazy big creative forces at work. The possibility matrix accounts for the sum of the Totality of experience across the multiverses and the bottom line in each moment gets expressed through you via thought/impulse/inspiration/decision.
As Ramesh S Balsekar, one of my fave Enlightened Masterâ€™s says: â€œAlways a happening, never a doerâ€
At first this notion can seem disempowering and devastating to our inner control freak (we all have one), however this non-personal perspective soon reveals itself to be a liberation. Also, when you’re done contemplating, you can check my previous post called Bad News For Control Freaks
So, I invite you to contemplate the notion:
â€œYou are being moved, being breathed, being Â‘doneÂ’. You are not the active force; rather the receiver and expression of it.â€
Learn How You Can Make Rapid Positive Shifts…
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Sit with this one, especially if your road to healing, or path to awakening finds you judging, belittling, labelling as ‘less Spiritual’ or attempting to ‘rid’ yourself of any particular experience or aspect of yourself…
Contemplate notion 4: “Your Ego & your Soul are sibling children of God, loved equally and unconditionally”
CONTEMPLATION 5: IF YOU PARENT YOURSELF…
In my many years of self-healing and working with countless clients, I noticed that most painful behaviours were born from ‘child’ consciousness’ or young identities looking for something… Love, protection, acknowledgement, understanding etc etc…
The child energy seeks parental energy… And yet we tend to “personalise” parental energy, and therefore limit it’s origin, to our parents and carers.
So if the flow of parental energy through these fine people is shaped in a way that didn’t connect with our various child energies, an unmet need is generated.
The good news is that parental energy is non-personal and can joyfully flow through you to your child energies in exquisitely precise ways.
Through this notion I was liberated from my personal history, so I invite you to contemplate…
“If you parent yourself in all the ways you wish you had been parented, then Love will run amok in your heart, where need once did”
Thereâ€™s also a more in depth blog on this subject HERE
CONTEMPLATION 6: YOUR MIND JUST OPENED…
Aligning with the forceless force that animates all experience is only a contemplation away. And the forceless force is EXPANDING the entire Universe – at a physical and quantum level, so I invite you to align with it as you contemplate the notionâ€¦
“Your mind just opened a little bit wider, your breath just got a little bit deeper & a quiet ease just crept silently into your Soul…”
CONTEMPLATION 7: BEING YOU IS THE GIFT
As we come to the end of this series of contemplations, let’s contemplate a little deeper…
Notion 7 is: “Being You is the greatest gift you can offer the Earth”
So what is ‘You’?
Who are ‘You’?
What does Being You look like?
There are lot’s of ‘standard’ spiritual answers to these questions… I am everything, I am nothing, I am a spiritual being in a human body… yada yadaâ€¦
And I would invite you to contemplate the notion WITHOUT the baggage of Spiritual knowledge…
“Being YOU is the greatest gift you can offer the Earth”
Contemplate… Ponder… Wonder…
And enjoy the presence of discovery….
I hope these notions have stirred you, moved you, touched you or awakened something in you – even if it’s confirmation of your own perspective… And if they have please pay it forward and share this blog <3
Contemplate the question ‘Who am I?’Â WITHOUTÂ the baggage of Spiritual knowledge (via @JoelYoungNPA)
Contemplate, Ponder, Wonder… and enjoy the presence of discovery…. (via @JoelYoungNPA)
“Being YOU is the greatest gift you can offer the Earth” @JoelYoungNPA #quote
“Aligning with the forceless force that animates all experience is only a contemplation away”Â @JoelYoungNPA #quote
A forceless force is EXPANDING the entire Universe at a physical and quantum level; I invite you to align with it (viaÂ @JoelYoungNPA)
“Most painful behaviours are born from ‘child’ consciousness’ or young identities looking for something”Â @JoelYoungNPA #quote
“The child energy seeks parental energy. But we personalise the energy & limit it’s origin to our parents and carers” @JoelYoungNPA #quote
“Your Ego & your Soul are sibling children of God, loved equally and unconditionally”Â @JoelYoungNPA #quote
In may ways that Del Amitri song â€˜Always The Last To Knowâ€™ speaks a profound truth of our personal experience :0)Â (viaÂ @JoelYoungNPA)
We like to think we are in charge, in control, the decider, but grand energies prior to consciousness are more causal than our personal choices
“The possibility matrix accounts for the sum of the Totality of experience & expresses it as impulse/inspiration/decision” via @JoelYoungNPA
â€œAlways a happening, never a doerâ€Â Ramesh S BalsekarÂ (viaÂ @JoelYoungNPA)
“At a quantum level, everything is in constant motion. Stuckness, fundamentally, is impossible”Â @JoelYoungNPA #quote
“Perfection is not about Happy Clappy LaLa Land in a permanent positively biased stasis, it’s about Divine Order”Â @JoelYoungNPA #quote
“Meeting any perspective as a notion (& all we have are notions about the mystery) invites an opening without agenda”Â @JoelYoungNPA #quote
“So much power becomes available as you loosen the grip of knowing and control”Â @JoelYoungNPA #quote #wisdom
In this Musing on NPA & Life I’m going to suggest that you noticeÂ a place in you where you have no need of life to acquiesce to your childish demands for more than you have.
In plain English that means I’m going to ask you to stop pandering to (or fighting) your inner brat. After all, s/he’s a brat.
So, let’s get this out of the way. We all have one.
It wants more. More than you have, more than you need, more…. just because more is better, and even if it isn’t better, at least it’s more, More, MORE!!!
So how does one handle this often incessant demand without suppressing or invalidating this part of you?
A Little Clarity Please…
Just to be clear – I am NOT saying ‘have no childish demands’. Childish demands come and go, as do all the colours of human experience.
My suggestion is that you have no NEED of LIFE to acquiesce to them, no matter how diligently you pray, affirm, clear out blocks, work your ass off, vision board etc etc… you get the gist.
This is, of course, only if you are interested in Truth and Peace.
And, just to be clear again – I am NOT saying donâ€™t pray, affirm, clear out blocks, work your ass off, vision board etc etc… what you are moved to do is always perfection in the widest context.
What I AM pointing to here is a discernment of Truth, from a Spiritual perspective, and a further re-alignment of ‘Being’ from ‘Dualistic Struggle’ to ‘Wholeness’
The History Of TheÂ ConsciousÂ Brat
In the latter part of last century, especially in the awakening movement, we nurtured the demanding child of our psyches and drilled ourselves on the belief in personal power.
To a degree this may have been the quenching of a natural thirst to re-integrate the personal perspective into the Whole â€“ a pendulum swing from outer focused authoritarianism and the exclusion of self-motivation. In the context of balance and integration, clearly this was an authentic act of kindness to The Human.
However, as one foot falls and has it’s moment of relevancy on the path, the other foot inevitably comes into consideration.
How To Love Your Inner Brat Wholesomely
Non-Personal Awareness on many levels is a vehicle through which you can engage in a simple inquiry to the source of â€˜youâ€™ and the experience of Self. Many are surprised at what they find; the realisation of Self as effect rather than cause. But ultimately there is relief, a resting and a natural willingness to Be.
From the highest personal perspective, it’s a matter of discernment. Part of mastering the NPA Process, and understanding Non-Personal Awareness is about becoming highly skilled at noticing ‘animation’.
Animation is my word for ‘what is already being moved by God/Grace/The Universe. It’s the ‘Energy of the moment’ and as you come to know this, you are able to let go of formulas and discern the ‘highest & best’ in the context of the present.
As you practice non-personal awareness, the personality relaxes it’s game of control and rests Gracefully in the chaotic, ordered, intelligent, beauty of Life. An invitation to notice the longings, wants and childish demands. To notice actions happening that appear to support those longings, wants and childish demands. To notice actions happening that appear to NOT support those longings, wants and childish demands. And to notice that, in any case, Life is what it is.
I have what I have. I will always have what I have. And I have no need of life to acquiesce to my childish demands for more than I have.
And just to leave your personality with a little reassurance right now; that tends to feel freakin’ awesome 😀
Childish demands come and go, as do all the colours of human experience. via @JoelYoungNPA
what you are moved to do is always perfection in the widest context.Â via @JoelYoungNPA
As one foot falls and has it’s moment of relevancy on the path, the other foot inevitably comes into consideration.Â via @JoelYoungNPA
engage in a simple inquiry to the source of â€˜youâ€™ and the experience of Self.Â via @JoelYoungNPA
Â let go of formulas and discern the ‘highest & best’ in the context of the present.Â via @JoelYoungNPA
As you practice non-personal awareness, the personality relaxes it’s game of control.Â via @JoelYoungNPA
Notice that, in any case, Life is what it is.Â via @JoelYoungNPA
I have what I have. I will always have what I have.Â via @JoelYoungNPA
I have no need of life to acquiesce to my childish demands for more than I have.Â via @JoelYoungNPA
Real Silence has nothing to do with sound. There is an inner Silence that is always available, no matter what clamber and clatter surrounds you.
I have sat with meditation “masters” who would go to great pains to control the environment, and especially noise in the room. I even remember an occasion where the teacher sent a staff member from the seminar room and out to the other side of the street. He was tasked to entreat the gentlemen who were minding their own and drilling the road, to please, in the name of Grace, shut the F*$# up… at least until we had finished meditating. As a testimony to the staff members charm and Grace, they actually DID shut the F*$# up, rather than telling him to do the same.
This dance was based on the notion that the energetics of the space are disturbed by external noise, which in turn can prohibit good meditation.
While I acknowledge that an outer reflection of silence can support ones ability to notice a true inner silence, or at least highlight the noise in your head, the association of the two can ultimately be misleading.
True Silence is never disturbed. Not by anything, and certainly not by noise. True Silence is a backdrop of total absence, against which the noise of experience, the one song, can be perceived.
Versions of the ‘Silence Please!’ dance don’t always come as grossly caricatured as the example I gave. It’s mostly a subtle thing, an irritation or a need for such-n-such to be just-so before true bliss can be realised.
If you find your sacred meditation space invaded by noise, and these controls and avoidances (cloaked as ‘honouring’) arise, then I invite you to be still… let your meditation be to notice the Silence beyond the noise. Here you will find the secret to peace in the storm of life.
Namaste. Tick-tock. Om Shanti. Woof Woof Woof. Peace &… Nee-Noorr-Neee-Nooorr. …Love my friend 😉
If you want to be and feel wealthy, start getting really honest with yourself about what truly matters.
Matter. It’s a word that speaks to the formation of the Universe. Quantum forces pulling energy waves into states of tension that give rise to apparent solidity. Energy in tension. I’m sure the phonic simile isn’t lost on you…
This is how your personal reality comes into being and what truly matters becomes more apparent in your field of experience. If you want to know what truly matters, look around your life and notice what there’s already an abundance of…
This is not about positive and negative – discovering what truly matters requires a neutrality of mind, an ability to simply notice.
This sober inquiry will help you land where you are and clear the hallucinogenic fog of positive or negative biased thinking. It has the potential to drop you into truly aligned clarity with an awareness of the intrinsic abundance of your existence.
The point of this sober alignment, is it gets you CONNECTED to what MATTERS – positive or negative as it may seem right now. It’s the difference between having your fingers on the stuff of life and the ability to move it, as distinct from just running your fingers through empty space. Basically, when you’re connected to what matters, you begin to have a much greater impact when intentions arise.
So, does your story of wealth match the reality of your wealth?
If your story of wealth is that it’s all about large amounts of money, and you have very little, then the fact is that money doesn’t truly matter to you. Once you notice what there IS a wealth of, and therefore what matters to you, you’ll automatically begin to feel the power and flow of your innately creative and abundant self – even if it’s subtle, and even if what matters seems a bit rubbish at first.
NPA offers a very simple way to notice those points of connection and in NPA we call them ‘Cookie Cutters’. I often say that I have developed highly sensitive Cookie Cutter ears. In other words I’ve got extremely good at noticing where people are connected to what matters to them. So each process begins with being connected to what truly matters. It’s one of the reasons an NPA session with me and The NPA Process can be so impactful, even if there’s just a few processes in the time we have together.
If you want to manifest the stuff you say you want – if you want to ‘materialise‘ it – then at some point you’ll need to connect to (and start moving in) the stream of matter as it relates to you now.
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OK. So that might seem like an odd question to ask you, but here’s the thing:
Forcing your personal growth or Spiritual evolution is like pumping chickens full of growth hormones…
If you don’t believe in pumping chickens full of growth hormones or farming vegetables through artificial growth processes, and yet find yourself cracking the whip on yourself in the name of healing, personal growth or spiritual progress then I invite you to take a gentle look at the energetic environment you’re hanging out in.
Disregard For Natural Order
It’sÂ the same consciousness that engages that behaviour in both situations. It comes from the belief that pushing hard and forcing things beyond their natural pace pays dividends. And perhaps also the fear that NOT pushing means no growth at all.
In both cases it can seem to achieve what you want in the short term and yet, the unkindness and disregard for natural order inevitably makes it unsustainable. At some point a backlash needs to happen. To put that another way… Nature asserts itself eventually.
Plus, chances are, the road of Force is a hard and fun-less journey for all involved!
Let Yourself Be
Let yourself be, and you’ll begin to connect to the natural rhythm of life, which offers smooth steady evolution AND exciting effortless growth spurts, all in joyful harmony.
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Have a Natural Day – Joel x
Cluck OR Yuk! Six Choice Checks for Spiritual Chicks
As this post get’s published it’s NPA’s 7th birthday!
It seems like ages ago that it popped out of me in Costa’s in Abingdon. It tickles me that Divine births can happen in the most ordinary places.
There I was in my own little vortex of guided communication while around me; kids were squashing the remains of muffins into hot chocolate soaked saucers; an amazing carer calmed the colourful tourette’s syndrome shouts of her ward; a suited salesman wheeled and dealed on his phone and mid-life girl friends supported each others judgements about the this and the that of their lives…
And in amongst all that, six little lines that would rock my world (and countless others) just popped out. Lot’s of people have told me they were inspired by the story of ‘how NPA was born’ so I thought I would share it here amongst the Musings of NPA & Life. If you share this post you can watch a video of me sharing the story, and help spread the word about NPA… otherwise – simply enjoy the read:
The Birth Of NPA
“Iâ€™ve been working in the field of human consciousness and personal growth for approaching 20 years. Back in 2007 Iâ€™d had the privilege of working with many amazing people and yetâ€¦
On 29th January 2007, I was sat in a Costa coffee shop in Abingdon, Oxfordshire where I lived and quite literally a prayer was ‘born’ through me and it went like this:
â€œOK God,” Grace, whatever you want to call that, â€œIs there something specifically that wants to come through me, in service to the world… and if there is, please let me know?â€
Iâ€™m very clear about this. If the answer was no, then that would have been really fine. I’d have happily just carried on teaching what I was teaching.
However, literally a week later (on February 5th) I was in the same coffee shop, journaling on my computer when the six simple lines that I now call the NPA Process literally popped out of me! They came with that tingley-wingley sensation – which is sort of a signal to me. It was like, â€œThis is the answer to your prayer. There will be seminars and books.â€
You Have To Be Kidding Me
My response was, â€œYou have to be kidding me. Thatâ€™s just too simple, too easy!â€ But Iâ€™ve discovered that the simplicity of NPA is its genius in as much as it means it can be used in so many different ways and yet it’s really, really powerful.
For quite a long time I kept it very, very close to myself. I wanted to discover for myself, through direct experience, what this ‘Non-Persoanl Awareness’ was? And it quickly busted many of my illusions – the things that Iâ€™d learned and taught for all those years were really challenged by this little NPA thing.
It wasnâ€™t until 2008, in November, that I first taught it publicly and not until 2009 February when I first taught it in an official way and since then itâ€™s just exploded. Itâ€™s in countries all over the world and thatâ€™s down to the fact that itâ€™s so simple and it just works.”
Thank You For Sharing!!
Thanks so much for sharing. Here’s the video – enjoy!
If you want to go in-depth with the power of NPA, remember to check out our comprehensive audio programme “NPA: The Bridge” :0)
In our positively polarised new-age culture, it is often said that God (or The Universe) always says yes. But there’s a Biblical story from the old testament which illustrates an important reason why there’s something God says ‘no’ to and the gift that this denial gives to each and every one of us…
No Way Dude
Moses in the Old Testament beseeched God to make himself known to him. God said “No way dude, you’d be annihilated” (I paraphrase) ;0)
Essentially this story points to God, Divinity as the unknowable mystery. No single being can encapsulate the infinite.
So Moses badgers God who finally agrees to let His shadow fall briefly across him. And in that moment Moses’ hair turns instantly grey and he runs mad around the dessert for 40 days and 40 nights…
This story reflects the deep longing within each human individual to connect with the unknowable – as voiced by Moses in the story.
A Finite Interpretation Of The Infinite Mystery
It further illustrates how even the slightest conscious awareness of that longing will give birth to a story, a shadow of the Truth. In other words; a perspective, a filtered translation or finite interpretation of the infinite mystery.
Then, my awakened friends, the trap of “I have it” is set. In other words we have tendancy to make our interpretation THE definitive truth, and then preach it as such to others.
In non-personal awareness we move from these subtle (and not so subtle) declarations of absolute truth, to a deep understanding that we each have a unique perspective on reality. It’s the acknowledgement that all we have is our story, and that our story connects us to the unknowable truth of what is.
An Air Of Discovery
When you surrender to the humbling awareness of this, you can begin to enjoy yours and other people’s stories, taking them lightly and entering conversations with an air of discovery and unattached passion.
So enjoy your story of Divinity, knowing it connects you somehow to the unknowable.